June 26

Day 19: Building on Rock in the Midst of Hurt

Theme: Identifying Relationship Triggers and Responses

📖 Scripture Readings:

• Genesis 16:1–12, 15–16
  “You shall name him Ishmael, for the LORD has heard you.”

• Psalm 106
  “Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good.”

• Matthew 7:21–29
  “Everyone who listens to these words of mine and acts on them will be like a wise man who built his house on rock.”

Reflection:

Today’s readings lead us into the difficult and painful dynamics of strained relationships, especially those built on unequal power, unmet desires, or miscommunication. In Genesis, Sarai acts out of desperation, and Hagar, though initially powerless, ends up scornful. Sarai’s response is abusive. Abram distances himself. Hagar flees. This scene reflects the kind of emotional and spiritual chaos that arises when trust in God is replaced with control or fear.

But then something extraordinary happens. God speaks directly to Hagar. A woman cast aside, mistreated, and on the run is met by the divine. “Where have you come from, and where are you going?” the angel of the Lord asks—a question that echoes through every conflict we face. Where are your reactions coming from? Where will they lead you?

In relationship triggers, we often act from past pain. Sarai acted from her barrenness. Hagar from her hurt pride. Abram from passivity. All these reactions build a house on sand. But Jesus teaches us in Matthew that real stability comes not from the appearance of righteousness (“Lord, Lord!”), but from actions rooted in listening and trust.

When we build our identity on God's love and obey His ways, even amidst brokenness, we begin to respond rather than react. This is how we become people who build our emotional and relational houses on rock.

Action/Practice:

Take time today to identify one relational conflict where your reaction may have been based on past pain or fear. Imagine God asking you as He asked Hagar: “Where have you come from, and where are you going?” Invite God into that moment and ask how you can move forward rooted in His word rather than your wounds.

Journal Prompt:

When I feel mistreated or abandoned, what is my first response? Do I run? Blame? Lash out? How can I start building my emotional responses on Christ—the rock—instead of my pain?

Daily Goal:

Practice spiritual grounding by pausing before reacting. Ask God for a heart that listens and obeys—even when it’s hard. Let today be about shifting from impulsive reaction to faithful response.